Monday, February 07, 2011

The Muslim-ness Measure




I sometimes wish there was a scale. Like the bathroom scale. Or like measuring in grams or litres. A measure where we could determine the Muslim-ness of a person. So we’d get up in the morning. Hop onto our Muslim-ness scales and gauge.

Hmmm… yesterday, I spoke 1 lie. That lost me 2 Muslim-ness kilos. BUT I gave a beeeg sadaqah! Yaaayyyyy! Back on track!

It would make life so easy, not so?
People with high Muslim-ness ratings would set up exclusive clubs.
Admission criterion: 100 Muslim-ness kilos and over only.

But wait, even without this scale, we have these exclusive groups. And even without an ‘Actual scale’ we have our mental checklist that gets ticked off every time we meet a person.
For a man:
 Beard
 Kurta
 Pants above ankles
 Namaaz mark

Or in the case of a woman:
 Scarf (dupatta = bonus points)
 Decently covered (cloak = double whammy bonus)
 Niqaab (triple whammy bonus *comes with a voice that says “you are guided, sistah’*)
Note : even among niqaabis there are degrees. The latest trend being a jilbaab and dupatta artfully draped over the head. Very stylish ;)

Yes, I know, I sound sarcastic. Even a little bitter. And perhaps, yes, I am. But see, I was once there. Comfortably enrobed in my .25 m² of extra fabric in the form of a niqaab. Looking down my long nose at people who walked around without a scarf on their heads. Making dua for their hidayat. Even as I sported a range of spiritual ills of my own. Really, what right did I have to make decisions regarding their level of Allah consciousness? And that too, based on what they didn’t look like?

Okay, rewind here. What prompted this post?
An argument. A very messy one with a friend about a post on FB. A post where the discussion veered from why Imams need not bother mention Egypt in Jumu’ah khutbahs to the importance of Sunnah. And people’s attitude regarding sunnah.

The argument was put out that today we have relegated sunnah to the back burner. That people have no regard for, no respect for sunnah. The beard was singled out for special attention. The true mark of a Believer! The thing that sets us apart from the Fire-worshippers (so it was said – though I was tempted to point out the orthodox Jews pride themselves on keeping big beards too).

It was further said that it was pointless for our Imams to discuss Egypt in their khutbahs when we have Muslims turning Murtad. And that should be given primary attention.

I bristled at these comments (okay, that’s a euphemism - I became pretty confrontational).

See, at no point would I ever be dismissive of the importance of Sunnah. It is an expression of our love for Allah and by extension, of Nabi SAW. BUT, it is NOT all of Deen. And to ostracise someone because of the length of their beard, to bring it on par with Fardh is a South African illness. To take it as the mark real Muslim is for me, a prime example of South African “Appearance Fixation”. Men have been refused Imaamat in our Masaajid because they have beards that cannot grow!

Allah says in the Noble Quraan:

فَلاَ تُزَكُّواْ أَنفُسَكُمْ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنِاتَّقَى

So, ascribe not purity to yourselves. He knows best him who has Taqwa
Surah 53 – Verse 32
And what is this Appearance Fixation, other than us feeding our already bloated egos? Revelling in how “guided” we are, compared to the misguided masses.
Does it not make us think when we see people who boasted none of the external ‘signs’ of ‘Piety’ being granted blessed deaths? Do we not question the value of these “external’ signs when we find an e-mail in our inboxes where a Muslim man, mubaarak grey beard, in full “Islamic regalia’, getting ‘some’ from a hooker in a side street somewhere, ‘unlucky’ enough to have been caught on camera.
Surely, the change begins within. Surely our Muslim-ness is about much more than what we look like.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

well said - sounds like a sardonic rant :))

Cocoa said...

Nabi SAW has said something to this effect: you will be judge not by ur outer appearance but rather by what is inside.... Enough said :-)

Anonymous said...

I am with you Sis !:-)I understand

Saf.!

lillasnigel said...

I hear ya! Although, personally, when I dress in a more conservative manner, I tend to be more mindful of my behaviour because I fear that it will be a reflection on Muslims in general. So it helps me to bring out the better person(sometimes).

desert demons said...

I enjoyed reading this, kinda did a related post a while back : http://mirage-a-trois.blogspot.com/2008/08/show-me-ur-muslimness.html

Azra said...

*sigh* I will never dismiss the Sunnah outright - but I find that most people take these Sunnah as FARDH and not as a guide. I've had so many arguments in this regard and no intention to shamelessly punt my views Miss S, but everything I want to say here, I've said here: http://www.azurah.com/2010/08/living-islam-some-moderation-please.html

:P

Saaleha said...

@ Anonymous, I think I should tag it thus :)

@ Cocoa, the hadith states : Allah does not look at your appearance, nor your wealth, but He looks at your hearts and your deeds. :) and you're right. After that, there's not too much we can say.

@Saf, jazakillah!

@ lillasnigel, that's the purpose of 'garb, na? Sad, that when it is not carried out without the right intention, it misses its mark :(

At Desert and Azra, shall check em out :)

Princess said...

Salaams Saaleha, you've raised many issues that is so rife in our society.

What irks me the most is who decides who is better than the next person? Many people with high Muslim-ness ratings are some what hypocrites (and I say this from what I've experienced)!

Was a good post - thank you raising it :)

Saaleha said...

Thanks Princess

We have a long way to go. Our evolution is slow. But change is coming. One person at a time. I like to think,m it starts with me :)

Princess said...

Yes evolution is very slow and change does begin with oneself :)

btw i so need to visit Lazeeza's soon! have not been there in ages

Niqabi said...

with all due respect : if you chose not to wear a niqab and abaya out of feeling hypocritical .... then why do you want to judge the people that chose to wear it .... surely it works both ways ....you are free to pick on people that do what you dont approve of ...yet they are not free to pick on you for what they approve of...??

maaf for any shortcomings

ps : and yes...i am choosing to remain anonymous, not because im hiding behind a false name....because it is an option here on your blog....so im choosing it....

jazakallah

Saaleha said...

okay, this is my third attempt at responding. I haven't given up, cos I think it's important that I do. So it doesn't matter that I've typed a lengthy response and watched in horror as a greedy blogger swallowed em :p

Assalaamu alaikum Niqaabi and welcome :)

I'm a believer in Freedom of Speech hence the allowance of anonymous commenting. ;)

See, i used to wear niqaab and still wear a cloak and scarf, so what i say, it's based on my own experiences.

I am fully aware of the misguided sense of righteousness that 'arb' can inspire. The sense of pseudo religiosity and even arrogance in some cases.

And this explains why we see so many overtly religious people engaging in questionable acts.

Surely having a big beard and wearing a kurta while you usurp the rights of orphans or refuse to care for your aging parents, that defeats the purpose.

What we need to understand is that every Muslim will adopt Islam as a way of life to a degree that they are comfortable with. And we need to respect this. On both sides of the 'seeming' divide, mind you.

Anonymous said...

But ... Shouldnt we leave the judging for Allah alone ... and go on merrily with our own lives and worry about ourselves ...

i'm sure you've heard the story of the prostitute that gave a dog water ...

why keep bringing up these topics...instead of covering up faults of others and letting Allah be the ultimate judge...

also... why do you feel that a madressa that drums the fact that we are all doomed to hellfire if we dont follow islam correctly as wrongdoing? the quraan does the same?

jazakallah for your response

niqabi

the hijab gal said...

I agree with you Anonymous,we have no rights to judge any creation because we are not the creator.I think every one should do what he believes in and not judge any one that does not believe in that in which he believes.

Niqaabi said...

Salaams

I stumbled upon your blog now so forgive me for this very late comment :)

"Surely having a big beard and wearing a kurta while you usurp the rights of orphans or refuse to care for your aging parents, that defeats the purpose."

No, it doesnt defeat the purpose. Modesty in dress is one action, and protecting the wealth of orphans is another. Whats better, doing one right and one wrong, or two wrongs and no rights? Islam doesnt tell us that we can only wear a kurta or a niqaab if we strictly follow our religion. And, forgive me for saying this, but thats one kind of mentality that simply irks me to the core. Some people find that they can only change in stages. I know lots of girls who don the niqaab yet have boyfriends. Its just unfortunate that wearing the kurta and niqaab doesnt bestow on a person gallons of piety. But thats exactly what you're suggesting, that people who wear kurta and niqaab, shouldnt be doing any wrong. But unfortunately we're human, and its human nature to err.

It was not my intention to offend you in any way, if i have i ask for forgivness, i simply wanted to state my opinion.